Her Meal Ticket?

Kevin, 26
Manhattan, NY

A couple weeks ago I was walking down the street and saw this goooorgeous girl. I had to stop her and get her number, which is something I don't normally do. Anyway, we've been out a couple of times since then, but I kinda feel like she's using me. She always wants to go to really expensive restaurants and she never even offers to pay. Don't get me wrong, I'm don't have a problem paying, but I think she could at least offer to leave the tip or pick up the tab once, especially since she's choosing restaurants that have 4 dollar signs next to their names on Citysearch. The last time we went to dinner at Tao, it set me back almost $150 for the two of us!!

The other day she called me to ask if I wanted to go out. I'd just gotten my car fixed which set me back an unexpected $800, so I told her we could go out, but we'd have to go somewhere a little less fancy because I was low on cash. She said it was ok, we could do it another time!

I was so mad that she didn't offer to pay or agree to go to a cheaper restaurant! I haven't spoken to her since then, although she's left me a couple messages to "see how I'm doing". I want to stay mad at her, but she's she damn hot, I'm ready to be over it already and take her out again, but I want to make sure she's not playing me.

You know, watching you wavering back and forth in your email was a little like watching an accident take place and not being able to look away. Kevin, I'm sorry to say it, but "she's just not that into you." Stevie Wonder could see that from a mile away. You are unequivocally, 100% being played.

I know, I know, we all want to think that people date us for our dashing good looks and charming personalities, but from time to time, some women will go out with a guy just for a free meal, a free show - basically anything free. Believe it or not, some of them make a pretty good life from it too. I have this one acquaintance who never cooks during summer because she's out dinner every night. Sounds harsh? It's no different than a guy who considers the effort and cash he'll have to put out to get a girl to, well, put out.

If this girl was into you, she'd offer to pay at least once, pay half, or at the very least, leave a tip. And she certainly wouldn't have cancelled because you're low on cash. But you know that already; you said the same thing in your email.

You've also proven a couple theories that I've had for a while now: 1) when you're good looking you get away with a lot of stuff, and 2) men love bitches. This girl treats you like shit, and you're willing to look the other way just because she's "gooorgeous"? Shoot, I'm gorgeous; wanna take me out on expensive dates that aren't ever going to lead to anything serious?

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