Swingin' It
MT, 22, New York, NY
My boyfriend and I have been together for a while and I really think he's the one. Everbody thinks we are too young to be so serious (we are both 22), but I think the whole age thing is totally played out and doesn't even matter anymore.
Anyway, his birthday is coming up and for his present he wants to have me and another girl in bed. I think the whole idea is disgusting, but I don't want to ruin his special day so I've decided to go along with it this one time.He says he already has someone in mind so I don't have to worry about her being clean or anything like that.
I need some advice on what to do in the actual situation. Don't bother to try to talk me out of it. I already have enough unsupportive friends for that. I just need to know what we should do when we are in the room.
Bwaaaaaaahhhhhaaaaaaa. And you're asking me? LMAO. You've been talking to my mother, haven't you? She's the only person on this earth who thinks I'm always having fabulous sexual exploits. You must not have read my entry about my Annual Sexual Average. It's too low to be wasting one opportunity on chicks.
Chile, the only woman I know what to do with in bed is myself. So there's your answer.
Now for my unsolicited advice (you can stop reading here if you want to, but I know you won't): I think you're crazy. You are going along with a scheme you find repulsive AND you're also letting dude choose the chick??!! Guaranteed she's gonna be someone he's already slept with (or wants to), and you're just giving him permission to do it.
What if he likes it and decides he wants to do it again? And again? And again? What reason are you gonna give for going along those times? It's his Christmas present. It's an early Valentine's Day gift. It's Saturday. LOL.
Women mature faster than men; most 22 year old men aren't grounded enough to have a swingers-esque relationship and still be faithful. Disaster is lurking on your front porch.
Do yourself a favor and listen to your "unsupportive friends".
Funny how the minute your friends don't agree with your choices they become unsupportive.
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posted by SimplEnigma @ 1:27 PM
21 comments
21 Comments:
flip it on him and tell him you'll only do it if you can get two guys in bed for your birthday :p
That should remedy the situation.
ooh that's just gross
people actually email u these questions?
I think Chica is hoping that someone will talk her out of it... otherwise why mention it. Alarms with red flashing lights should be going off in her head and everywhere she walks... how de hell dude gonna already have somebody in mind...is she really that clueless.
Oh the innocence of youth!!
innocence you call it!!! you are much too kind...well way kinder than me anyway....lol
HA! She's not repulsed...and it's got nothing to do with her NOT wanting to ruin his b-day... she is curious, and wants to make it appear as if she's going along to please her boyfriend.
I also agree with SE, the chick that he's 'chosen' is someone he's already slept with or wants to sleep with again, under the guise of hey let's try a 3-some.
what a thing LOL Hey, MT, be a woman about it and tell your man you're also interested in sleeping with a woman.
The things some of us will do just to get hitched ...geeez
Go with Adrian on this one ...that will definitely work
lol, i had to read this twice to make sure i wasnt seeing doubles...or in this case triples.....Poor girl....
What?
Women are always hatin on each other. I'm not looking 4 any1 to talk me out of anything. Enigma always acts like she's the expert on evrything so I think shed know what to do. I'm gonna do it irregardless of what any of you say. If u can't say somethig nice then maybe you shouldn't respond.
Okay MT...let us all know how it turns out!
so I don't have to worry about her being "clean" or anything like that.....?
afta u caan tap mi from respond! likkle gyal go siddown yaaah....
now that i've gotten the ghetto out of me, im with search...MT is curious and prolly wanted to get with a girl all along.
aint no other reason, can't be that choopid
now i'll excuse myself "from" hating more :)
honestly, i can't believe the relationship is that serious if the guy is bringing up this kinda of exploit to you. i don't mean to be a downer, but if you're really emotionally attached to this guy, then you should know what will hurt your feelings and what won't. i don't think that you'll be better off having done a threesome than you were before you did. if you're curious about doing it, like irie diva says, then say that you're curious and don't put it off as a request that he's trying to make you do. you're grown! To me, you're naive if you get hurt becuase of it, but still grown! I can't hate on ya, but I can certainly see a disaster if you don't make the right decision for youself as well.
"Women are always hatin on each other."
STEUUUUUPPPPPSSSSS!!
Hope all goes well for chica yes!
GET OUT NOW!! that's what i say. quick and dirty. NEXT QUESTION!
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LOL...If you ever saw the response email MT sent me. I had to remind myself that she was 22 years old. LOL.
LMAO at the responses. I have the funniest blog readers ever.
With age comes wisdom, we say. What we don't often hear is: With age also comes wit!
...lol. ( I really don't mean to laugh, but I have the biggest smile on my face).
It took 20 years to invite another man into my bed, and another 20 years to get him out of my bed-'in-me-head'....lol
Dear young lady. Give yourself some time to master the moods/measures of one man.
If you have to ask "what we should do when we are in the room", then you aren't ready to rumble. As women we are given the powerful gift of intuition. Be open to listen to the energy from this. If you are not doing it from a point where you want/ or you have initiated it then, no matter how you 'undress it' it will never be real gift from you.
~Hi SE, blessings as always.
...Granny.
Omg, are these real email you're getting? sigh.
How yu do?
@Adrian had the right response! Ah ha! Hey, Ive done the sex party thing, and all I have to say is dont do anythng you dont feel comforable doing - which sounds like the entire evening - dump yer boyfriend already!
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