Blinded by Love?
I've also had many experiences with women (yup, I said it, WOMEN) who get in a relationship and become so consumed that they don't see that dude is an asshole. I need to be the first to know if my dude's an asshole, so of course this means that I try to be the exact opposite women who are all consumed, and in doing so end up sabotaging myself.
Now I'm trying to find the balance between being alert enough to recognize the red flags, but not being too analytical about the whole thing. And my new crush (I know, it's tres teen but I can't think of any other way to describe him) is the perfect way to practice. Hehe. More on that another time.
Do any of y'all find it hard to be objective and see the bad side of your S.O. when you're actually in the relationship? I wanna hear about it.
Speaking of crushes, I have a huge girl-crush on Tina Fey and Rihanna...
posted by SimplEnigma @ 10:40 PM
13 comments
13 Comments:
Tina Fey rocks. She'd make a good boyfriend.
I'm too objective...so much so that I've been called emotionally detached(hmmm, I wonder if law school caused me emotional harm - and can I sue?)...
I look at is as being able to step outside my situation and see from the outside in....Most times, I'm the one saying dude is an asshole and my friends are saying I'm too hard on a person....Then, suddenly asshole does something which completely justfies my observation and my friends are left dumbfounded; with the whole "but he seemed like such a nice guy" speech on their lips.
Anyways, if it wasn't law school that shaped me - which I will not rule out, because then my theory of emotional harm would be moot - perhaps it was written in the stars....you know what "they" say about Scorpions and all ROFL (to steal a phrase *pops collar*)
flaws are flaws; I see them plain as day. I worry myself sometimes.
I confess I have a girl crush on "Dana Scully" of X-Files.
Any relationship with another person is a leap of faith.
Either you have the courage, or you don't.
No one escapes being a fool for love at least once in their lives...and hopefully learning from it.
Being too fearful to take the leap also brings with it the possibility that you could lose out on a good thing.
You described my first relationship to a tee, everyone knew about the other girl, except lil ole me. I guess I come from the corner of "I would never be so mean to anyone on purpose" and thus didn't quite even know to watch out for something like that.
Now days I am like you, trying not to fall to the dark side, and struggling to find a healthy median.
I say, Trust your instincts, they are usually spot on.
i think that i have too many male friends. These days, I almost expect whomever I'm with to cheat; it's unfortunate, but the truth. I just hope that he'd have the decency not to bring any of the sh*t home. Most of my friends do it regularly.
@ Anonymous, I was tempted to use one of my Tribeca Film Fest tickets to go see Baby Mama. LOL.
@Search, emotinally detached is just another way of saying cold fish. You should make that your new DHR name. Hehe.
@GC: It's not so much flaws that I'm talkin' bout because everyone has those. I'm talkin' bout situations where it's a gray area. My naturally suspicious personality rarely makes me give the benefit of the doubt. Scully???!! Really? Wow.
@radmila: See above. I've never been cheated on (that I know of) so it's not a trust thing. I never really think a dude I'm with is gonna cheat on me. It's more the fact that I never really have those rose-colored moments in my relationship. Even in the beginning I'm spotting bullshit.
@CP: Sorry to hear that. Cannot imagine how hurt (and embarassed) you must have been. You ever see those psychics that can predict other people's future but can't tell their own. My instinct is like that: dead wrong for myself, but 100% for my friends. LOL.
@ Anonymous: It's the caliber of male friends you have, not the fact that you have too many male friends. My male friends have actually restored my faith in men because they're all good guys who are just trying to do right by the women in their lives.
It's a good thing that your sh*t detector is in excellent working condition.
It took me years to tune mine.
i'm more concerned about the idiot sleeping with a chick on the first night w/o a condom. how bout ever. you really don't like your life do you? stupid.
lol @ jaimeil's comment. I'm so stuck at that too.
SimplEnigma, I have a gf who has been married to this fellow for about 4 years. She's pregnant with their first child. They are apparently quite elated and a more devoted husband he could not be.
I also have a colleague who came into work recently all aglow and dreamy about her boyfriend. A more devoted boyfriend he could not be. She and he went away a couple of weeks ago for a weekend and now she thinks he might just be THE one.
When she got back she brought out the pictures. To my absolute shock and horror devoted bf is one and the same as said devoted husband.
yup. Talk about a mess.
Come back MOD, come back!
bwahahahaha@ ann....now das some shyt!
When it comes to relationships I just can't seem to get a break. Guys I fall for either just want to be friends or just not ready for a serious relationship.
I hear what you say about a guy being faithful. I'm the kind of person who takes a while to warm up to people (especially men) but once I do, I tend to trust them implicitly, and will continue to unless they do something to show me they are untrustworthy. Unfortunately, by that time, it's too late because I already lost my heart.
Post a Comment
<< Home