Second, Third and Fourth Chances? - Part II

This will make more sense if you read Part I first.

The situation is this...

He was in a long-distance relationship which ended just before we got together. We were together for a couple months and everything was great, and then she called to say she was pregnant. (This was apparently the reason he became distant and stopped returning my calls.) Since they weren't together, he doesn't know if it's his child. He already has two other children and he says he wanted his next relationship to be serious with the potential of leading to marriage and more kids, so this puts a wrench in things.

I don't know what to do about this. Intellectually I know I should probably walk away. A man who disappears at the first obstacle and issue is not exactly confidence-inspiring. For some unknown reason, there's something about this guy that just feels right when I'm with him.

We'd both like to be together, but he needs to work out what's going on, and I need to work out if this is something I want to deal with in my life. That's how we left it. The only reference I have is Giselle Bundchen who got together with Tom Brady when he left his pregnant girlfriend. They seem to be doing ok.

What should I do?

For a moment, I thought this was an episode of The Game (I really hope they bring it back to TV!). But it's not; it's real life. The way I see it, there were 3 ways he could have handled this:

1) He could have told you, and you could've bounced because you couldn't deal with it, OR
2) He could have told you, and you were ok with it...well, not ok, but it's something you decided you could deal with, OR
3) He could have told you and decided that he wanted to get back with pregnant chick and make a family of it (which is what happened to me).

Noticing a pattern here? Not telling you about this was never an option. It just strikes me as a cowardly thing to do. Personally, I couldn't be with a dude who didn't call me for months. What's that about?

You've probably figured it out by now (I'm all late with the response), but lose the dude. If the connection was as strong for him as it was for you, there's no way he would've ignored your calls. No way. If you get with him after this, I think it'll make him think he can get away with anything. What else is he not telling you?

Good luck!

What say you, dear Readers?