Three's A Crowd

Three's a crowd

My boyfriend and I are planning a beach getaway over the winter. His best friend wants to come because he's never been to that island before. My BF doesn't see anything wrong, but I'm PISSED. Am I overreacting?
-Anonymous question via my Formspring page

I don't think you should be pissed; you should be WORRIED. I'm assuming that your boyfriend's best friend is not bringing a companion and in my opinion, that's a red flag. Any redblooded straight male who has the prospect of a romantic (read: lots of sex) vacation with his lady would not jeopardize it to hang out with his boy, unless:
a) He's planning on getting some from his boy too, or
b) He's planning on making it a threesome.

Either way, you should be worried (unless you're totally down with the threesome). It's not normal for dudes to bring along friends on their romantic vacations...actually, this is an equal opportunity dilemma; it's not normal for women to do it either. Three is never company. It didn't even work on Three's Company (Janet was always the red-headed stepchild.)

So what to do? Tell your boyfriend that his best friend will have to go on his own and explain that you just want it to be the both of you so you can rock his world. (Make sure you specify that you plan to "rock his world.") That should get rid of the best friend pretty quickly.

If he still insists on bringing his friend, then you have to decide if you wanna continue dating a gay dude.