The Shit You Should Know, Pt. 1

So a friend sent this to me in an email, and normally I don't read forwards, but I dunno maybe I was in a vulnerable mood because this one struck a chord with me. It's nothing too earth shattering - actually, it's really stuff you should really know already, but sometimes you choose not to see when you think you're in that "great" relationship. It was originally titled "If A Man Wants You", but I thought that was a little too BBW (Bitter Black Woman) for me. The stuff is pretty generic and could apply to either sex, so I decided I wouldn't use that title or make it gender specific.

1. If a someone wants you, nothing can keep them away.
2. If s/he doesn't want you, nothing can make them stay.
3. Stop making excuses for a person's behavior.
4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
5. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
6. Slower is better.
7. Never live your life for a someone else before you find what makes you truly happy.
8. If a relationship ends because the person was not treating you as you deserve, then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
9. Don't settle. If you feel like s/he is stringing you along, then they probably are.
10. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourselfa year later for staying when things are not better.
11. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
12. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? (Sorry couldn't do anything with this one)
13. Always have your own set of friends separate from your partner's.
14. Maintain guidelines for how you are treated.
15. If something bothers you, speak up.

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