Bad Grammer Make Me (Sic)
So I started the online browsing thing again (I’m making next week Online Dating Week, so you’ll hear some of the stories – including the eHarmony one that I’ve been meaning to tell for months now).
One of my many freelance jobs is to write online profiles for people who are on dating sites. Believe it or not, people are actually willing to pay someone to make them sound witty, interesting, intelligent, {insert adjective here}. So yeah, I do that sometimes, and that’s how I kinda got back into profile browsing because I have to go into the site that they’re joining, look around, read what the other folks have posted and then come up with something original (within the guidelines they’ve given me) to make that person stand out. It’s pretty interesting stuff.
A lot of people knock online dating, but I think it’s actually a pretty useful way to get a feel on a potential date. You can tell a lot about a person by a) their picture choice, and b) what they say in their profile (unless of course they paid a professional like me to write it….LOL). Misspellings I can live with – ok, ok, I might flinch eeeever so slightly when I read them, but I can live with ‘em, especially when it’s obvious that it was a typo or the person is slangin’ it. Shit, I have misspellings on my blog all the time, so that’s not a dealbreaker.
Even if the grammar is a little off, that’s ok…we all have our moments...but consistently poor grammar throughout the whole profile?! I dunno if I could handle that. It’s funny because I’ll be looking through these profiles and I’ll spot a cute guy; I’ll check the vital statistics and then I’ll read his profile, and it’s like, “Awww, dayum!” LOL. The most memorable example:
“I’m looking four a women that nose how to treat her man. If your that women, message me.” If I met a computer illiterate dude who wrote that, I’d probably be more open to going on a date with him. Honestly. But if you’re computer literate enough to log into a website, upload a picture and make a profile, you’re literate enough to be able to construct a sentence – or at the very least, use dictionary.com. This dude was 31 and he was fooooine. Bet he thought he could actually get over on his good looks and washboard abs. LMAO.
It might sound like I’m being overly picky and superficial, and I don’t mean to come off that way, especially since my grammar isn't perfect either. If I haven't spoken to you, your profile is the closest insight I have into who you are, so at least put some effort into it.
I’m not looking for a walking dictionary, but I like to date guys that I perceive to be smarter than I am. I’d like to be able to take the dude I’m dating to a company function, leave him with my colleagues and not come back from the bathroom to see their collective jaws on the floor. Granted, that situation would probably about more than just bad grammar, but still…
Besides, I kinda feel like the dude who would take the time to select the perfect picture of his abs oiled and gleaming, but won’t put the same dedication into what he writes, is probably a bit too shallow for me anyway.
Got something smart (and grammatically correct) to say? LOL
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posted by SimplEnigma @ 12:50 PM
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8 Comments:
Enigma,
You seem kinda like you not shore weather or not you should be disqualifying people for bad grammer. Personally I don't see nothing wrong with it if you can afford to do that. When your options are that bountiful limiting them to those people that are on your level might be a good thing.
Four example my best friend is an investment banker and he met this women. and of course the subject came up of what he does for a living. He told her he worked in securities. she immediately jumpt to the conclusion that he was a security guard. He crossed her off his list immediately. I taught that was a little bit premature. I mean its an honest mistake notwithstanding the expensive suit and timepeace.
I feel you thou. It can be a major turn off when a pretty face butcher's the english language. I usually examine a potential partner from the stand point of what the relationship could be several years from now (not sure if its right but its worked so far) and with bad grammer all I can imagine is going to the PTA meeting and my dauter explaining to the teacher that her mother help her with her english asinement. Thats just to much embarasment and too much work. If I can avoid it why not.
@seemiyah: I'm still laughing at "they was good"...hehe
16%: Bwaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhaaaa...
This is my official blog proposal to you. Will you marry me? No seriously. You just did what I would've done if I'd seen this on someone else's blog. LOL.
When I used to work in the brokerage business, I'd get the same thing.
Me: I work in securities.
Him: Oh, for what store.
Good grief.
It's not that I'm not sure whether I should disqualify people for grammar, but I'm really trying harder to not be so prematurely dismissive and to give folks a chance. (Trying being the operative word here). LOL.
You have just, unknowingly of course, given me another reason NOT to use such sites. People can't even write their own profile. So, suppose I like your writing style? We already started off with smoke and mirrors.
Mr. A, was it not you who recommended I try eHarmony? LOL.
But I don't just write whatever comes to mind. The profile is still the person's...all I do is take their words and make it grammatically correct, or check what they've written and make suggestions on how to make it stand out.
I don't go in and blindly write up someone's profile. So I guess you can say you're still getting that person, just a little jazzed up. If you look at it like seemiyah said, you can say a person who puts so much effort into making sure their profile is a good one is really interested in meeting someone.
I would just love to sit and actually watch them write a letter or email ... its understandable that at times the brain will allow your fingers to type or write a letter or two out of place...its medically noted...but to make a whole email so man...nah. Late for school's get no play. Next.
online dating? hmmm isn't that a sin? lol
I should offer to shoot a better picture of the one I've been dating in return for the dinners he bought and to give him a better chance with the next girl.
Oh okay then. Before, it sounded like you were writing for them and not fixin it up. Perhaps I just read wrong.
I swear off those sites for other reasons. I want to do it the ol' school way.
I understands what you is trying to said Simple. Truly, I reelly do, I cannot stands poeple who can't spells properly or ave inproper grammer.
No way is that tolerhable. No wae at all.
I myself uses good inglesh at all time. Becuase I knew that poeple reads me all the time.
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