Eat My Words And Shit A Story
"You're one of the biggest hypocrites I know!" she said laughing.
Me: "Whadd'ya mean? What did I do now?"
Her: "I didn't know your GYN doctor was a white guy!"
Me: "Yeah...and?"
Her: "Well, you said you were uncomfortable with dating white guys because of the physical intimacy."
Me: "I am."
Her: "So you don't want to date a white guy because you're uncomfortable with him seeing you naked and touching your body, but you'll let a random white guy stick his hands in your cootercoot?!"
Hmm, I hadn't thought of it like that.
Me: "Well, that's different. It's the GYN's job to do that!"
Her: "It's the same thing. They're both white guys who will see you naked, and touch you. The reason why they're doing it is irrelevant."
I didn't agree. How could she compare passion with professionalism? It wasn't the same thing....well at least I don't think it's the same thing...Could it be the same thing?
I thought I'd made my position clear last time, but for some reason people always see me as this afrocentric (I hate that word) chick who absolutely refuses to date white dudes. I'd date a white dude. I really would. But for one, he'd have to super foine. Like really, really hot. I know it's superficial, but I've seen too many good looking black people with ugly white people (and vice versa) and I talk about them, so I wouldn't do the same thing. LOL. Hey, I can't be deep and profound all the time.
And then I'd have to get over those issues that I talked about a while back. I don't honestly think I could date a white dude who'd never dated a black chick.
But the reality is that the physical qualities I'm attracted to (dark skin, that can't-define-it-swagger, locs, afros, etc.) white dudes typically don't possess them. That's all...
So if y'all know a Robin Thicke or JFK, Jr. lookalike, tell him to holla atchya girl. LOL.
But seriously though, am I being a hypocrite because I have a white male GYN?
Email me your own dating/relationship question.
posted by SimplEnigma @ 1:24 PM
12 comments
12 Comments:
i don't think you're being hypocritical; they are two completely separate sets of circumstances. if you were getting turned on by your white gyn but refused to sleep with a white guy - that's another story. (btw - i know that sounds very strange/kind of gross, but it actually happened to a friend of mine!) it's hard enough to find a good doctor - never mind gyn - that you're comfortable with, so who cares! sorry for the run-on sentences...
cootercoot!? hilarious!
okay so I read the blog and what not about your cootercoot being fandangled by a white male GYN, I would comment...but my focus right now is that you're hollerin for Robin Thicke...lay offf HE'S MINE ...lol him and Justin Timberlake -we meet everynight same place same time...lol
hmmm i'm kinda iffy on a male gyn...forget the "white" part, the male part has me ummmm nervous.
I'm a horny heffa...sorry a male gyn won't work - african american nor caucasian (hell not even Japanese)
LMAO @ your friend who got turned on by the GYN...I can't even imagine it! Ugh!
@Brown Girl: see comment above to Quiet Capricorn...U think you could get excited by something so clinical. Not me. I just want it to be over ASAP. Sex is the last thing on my mind in the GYN office. And then there's always that female nurse watching along. Good grief. LOL @ Robin Thicke. What a haircut and a stylist can do for a guy. :)
No I dont think youre a hypocrite, as they are different circumstances. I dont see why you have a white male GYN in the first place, but, hey, thats just me, lol. The vast majority of my doctors have been Black (lots of doctors in my family, so they have the hook-ups). But I do believe in going to a dr. thats knowledgeable as well as personable, so if my issue were serious enough, Id see a white physician. And for GYN issues, Id consider a male, but man, Id have to get over a lot of issues to do that!
L
SE the number of times I've played "doctor" lol...yup clinical or not my mind will stray and override the real purpose of my visit lol..what can I say,maybe I'm deprived lol
LOL...more people seemed to be stumped on me having a male GYN than anything else. Hehe.
@Lola: I have a white male GYN because I have yet to find a black male GYN in Manhattan who a) accepts my insurance and b) have office hours that are convenient for me and c) have the credentials and years of experience that I use as my measuring stick for choosing a doctor. Actually, I couldn't even find one in Brooklyn that met that criteria. Believe me, I asked around. Findablackdoctor.com had none; BlackDoctorFinder.com had none either.
I've had both male and female GYNs and I feel more comfortable with a male. I dunno, call me weird, but I feel like a female GYN is a little more judgemental...actually I'm having flashbacks of my last female GYN peering over her glasses at me (I hate when people do that) when I told her I had a new partner. I felt like I was having the conversation with one of my uptight uber-religious relatives instead of a woman who hears that stuff everyday.
While I try to have black doctors, I prefer to put my health in the hands of someone who is qualified and makes me feel comfortable...
(Aargh, the rest of what I was saying got cut off)
I like to feel like I can ask as many questions as I want (and I ask a lot, believe me) without the doctor getting annoyed or being condescending.
Yes, there are black male GYNs who fit these criteria but maybe they're not in NYC because I haven't found one yet.
Hmmm, not sure, I'm thinking that I would prefer a black gyn but I'm not sure if that's so. I tend to prefer male docs though. This is silly but I keep thinking that the female going to be looking at my coochie and comparing it to hers. hehe.
Plus (and I know I shouldn't be thinking like this) it's natural for a man to be poking around the vaggie. That's what I'm accustomed to.
I feel the same way about it, Gela. A man down there feels natural...a woman, not so much. LOL.
you're not being hypocritical...your friend was trying to hard to connect non-existant dots.
Now as for the male v female GYN...I have an Black female GYN...God bless you, Dr. C. Before her, I had a Black male GYN...he sucked! I mean he was knowledgable, but his bedside manner left much to be desired. I know he probably got tired of me asking about getting my tubes tied (having zero kids is obviously a bad thing when one brings up this discussion)....and I'm SURE it had nothing to do with the fact that I always asked if he could heat up the ducklips before insertion...(he always blushed, and the nurse - Mrs. J - always laughed with me when it happened)....
anyway I digress....I just had to go with another GYN because the man sucked at talking to his patients...how can you look at women's vaginas all day, and not be able to look them in the eye when discussing their reproductive health? If he was that timid about the basics, I couldn't trust him to be agressive should I actually have something to worry about...so I was referred to Dr. C...and she has NO problem telling you everything you want to know (and things you don't want to know - e.g. smoking and it's relationship with gynecological phenoms arrrrggghhh! - LOL
I used to be sketchy about a female GYN, and I never wanted a white one....I've since let go of those hang-ups, knowing it's about who can give the best care...
I've been fortunate enough to have gotten great recs and have found the perfect GYN for me
oy...forgive my spelling errors...I've been up since 3 and haven't had coffee yet!
Post a Comment
<< Home