Crazy Doesn't Happen Overnight

I really can't feel sorry for people who get into relationships then realize their partner is dysfunctional (read: crazy). I think they bring it on themselves. A significant other doesn't get up one day and just loses it; s/he has been giving you hints aaaaaalll along. You were just too caught up in them to realize it.

Years ago when I lived in Canarsie, I used to date this guy who lived in Long Island. Sometimes he'd call me and say, "I happen to be in your neighborhood, wanna hang out?" Everyone knows that Canarsie is not a place you just happen to be in. It's full of old people and families. You don't go to Canarsie unless you have something to do there. That house of cards came down one day when he called me:
"Where are you?"
Me (I'd started getting hip to his dropping by game): "I'm in Manhattan chillin' with some friends."
Him: "You're in Manhattan."
Me: "Yes. I probably won't get home until really late."
Him: "No you're not. You're home. I just saw you go upstairs. Why are you lying?"

I knew right then that dude was crazy. Needless to say, I saw him that night (he was, after all, parked outside my house and who knows what crazy people do when they're turned down)...but slowly weaned myself away from him.

So one of my brothers is having issues with his "crazy bitch" ex-fiance. He's constantly complaining how he hates her, and how she's crazy, etc., but since they have a child together seems like she's gonna be in his life for, well, the rest of his life. LOL. But her behavior isn't all that new - she was crazy when they met, crazy when they were dating, crazy when they got engaged...am I the only one who's seeing the pattern? He'd leave to hang out with the family, and five minutes later she'd call to see "what he was doing", or call to "tell him something she forgot to say" during the ENTIRE day they were in the house together. Back then, my brother thought it was cute. LOL.

I have friend who I'll call Clueless. Clueless is in a relationship with someone whose mental stability is questionable, who we'll call Insane. Together, Clueless and Insane have one of the most dysfunctional relationships EVER. I think Insane has the potential to be a stalker, and is the type who'd commit suicide (or murder) if Clueless left. Funny enough, Clueless feels the same way. Yet they're still together. Ah well. What can you do?

The point is, if you get into a relationship with a crazy person, it's YOUR fault. Chances are the person hasn't changed since you met them...you just didn't want to see the "unromantic" stuff. It's all good. Date who you wanna date! Just don't ask to stay with me, 'cause a sista's renting and the rent is cheap, so I can't afford for your crazy ex to come burn down my place of residence. Thanks for understanding.

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