Meet The Parents
So while we're on the subject of family members and such, it might be a prudent time to mention that I also don't really have such a great track record with parents...actually, it's the other way around: they don't have a great track record with ME.
There was Stefan-the-first-french-kiss guy whose mother just ignored me altogether. There was Raldi, the Dominican guy I flirted with in high school, whose mother told him (in Spanish) to stop hanging out with the black girl. She didn't realize that I spoke Spanish fluently. LOL. Then there was Trice, whose mother disliked me, even though I brought structure and stability to her son's life. He admitted to me one day that he thought it was because I was dark skinned. Funny, his mother is a shade darker than I am. LOL. I never met the Love of My Life's mother. Maybe it's a good thing. He probably wouldn't have been the Love of My Life.
The only parent I've ever gotten along with was the father of Robin, the boy who gave me my first tap kiss. Robin's father adored me. He'd buy me sodas, make me ride up front, and was just the nicest man. Sadly, he was murdered a few years ago. :(
But you've probably noticed the pattern by now. I'm just not that into mothers, and I think the feeling is mutual. Fathers I have no problems with; I was raised by one. But the mothers? That's a different story. I feel about mothers a little like I do about cats: I'm not scared of them, but they make me slightly uncomfortable, and if they weren't around, I probably wouldn't lose any sleep. Maybe I'll meet a mother who'll change that, but I won't hold my breath. The sad part is I'm very apathetic as to whether I get along with the parents or not. If they like me, they like me....if they don't, I don't really feel like it's my problem. LOL. You'll see me on an episode of MTV's Parental Control very soon...hehe.
Freud would probably say I'm channeling some of my own unresolved maternal issues. Screw you, Freud! I am perfectly normal, and I'm sure lots of women don't get along with their boyfriends' mothers.
So to summarize, I don't get along with kids and I don't get along with parents - well mothers at least. But I'm really good with siblings! LOL.
If your S.O. didn't get along with your parents, would that affect your decision to stay with them?
Email me your own dating dilemma.
posted by SimplEnigma @ 10:13 AM
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LOL @ "Screw you, Freud!"
But...to answer...yes I would stay with the man...my life, my mistakes or successes to make. My parents don't have to like the man, but I would not let them abuse him either(or vice versa).
Didn't think of it on the other foot. I wouldn't say that it would make me leave my man, however, I can't lie, if my dad didn't like him, I'd really have to take a second look at what it is he doesn't like. If it's just plain ol' I-don't-like-him-cause-he's-dating-my-daughter, then that's different, but my father's opinion has helped me a lot over the years, so I'd keep it in the back of my mind if he had a valid reason for not liking dude. Wouldn't break up with him, but would keep it in the back of my mind.
:) Damn SimplEnigma! So let me get this straight; you don't get along with kids, you don't get a long with parents, and based on the existence of this blog, you don't get along too well with dates. TELL ME, WHAT WOULD THAT FREAK FREUD WOULD SAY ABOUT THAT?
Here's my solution. Date sterile twins, triplets, etc., who are orphans. Date the one you like, then when you get tired of him you can move to the other brother since you probably have a good relationship. If that relationship burns out, go back to the previous brother or on to another brother, depending on how many brothers are a part of that multiple birth. Either way, you'll be moving on to someone you already have some kind of a relationship, and if they are maternal, that's a bonus because the transition will be that much easier.
LMAO...you're hysterical 16%. Absolutely hysterical.
But I'm being honest. I say the things that many women think and feel, but never tell yall (until after you propose). LOL.
Lemme stop before I have the women after me. Seriously though, I'm just trying to keep it real.
If my parents didn't like the guy, (for a proper reason) it would worry me - I wouldn't automatically dump him but it would make me think about things...
And I guess I'm like you with kids - I don't want a man to meet my parents until it is absolutely necessary!
I've gotten along with all of my ex's parents. My ex-husbands mother still keeps in touch with me. If my friends ( the real ones) don't like him, then he's gone! These one can be objective, cause ya know us ladies get seduced by the dyck, and then it's love! LOL!
@Kingston Girl: I've yet to introduce a dude I've dated to my dad.
My mom met a couple guys I dated: one was accidental - we ran into him on the street and I couldn't very well just not introduce them (believe me I considered it) and the other was The Love of My Life, whom she STILL keeps asking about. She won't be meeting anyone else til I'm getting married.
@Wynsome: You'd kick him to the curb because your friends didn't like him?! Wow. I wouldn't want a friend of mine to stop dating a dude because I didn't like him. Now if he tried to holla at me or something, that'd be different, but if I couldn't articulate why I don't like him, then I wouldn't want my friend to stop dating him, just because of that.
If my parents didn't like the person I was dating I would take their concerns into consideration. Whether or not I would cut them off...depends.
sad to say i've gotten along w/my ex's parents better than the exs. Although very uncomfortable for me, most all of them kept in touch w/me after the breakups. I'd slowly stop speaking to them cause it just felt funny...two still swear I'm the one for their son...
while i'm sure there's an exception to every rule, if dad doh like em, they gotta go. when i was younger i didn't care if my parents approved. my mom loves most anyone. but my dad was the critical one. I wish i had him around still because I'd now take his opinion as the gospel cause he pegged them right everytime.
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